You don’t have to go through dozens of failed relationships to figure out what true love is, although it does help. It is very important that you know how to distinguish between short-term affection and euphoria and true Love. People confuse these things all the time, which often leads to a painful breakup, and only then do you realize that the person they were with was not their soulmate.
The good news is, some signs will help you figure out that she is the one!
1. You’re not afraid to look goofy in front of each other
Messy bed-hair, nasty saliva hanging from your mouth, and a pillow print on your face – whatever you look like, it won’t stop your boo from loving you. Sure, it’s normal to feel a bit of a shame for this sort of stuff at the beginning of a relationship, since many of us want to look better than we really are. But with time, you start to understand that it doesn’t matter and that no person looks flawless (especially after a rough night). So if your partner is okay with you gaining a few extra pounds or a pimple suddenly erupting from your forehead, it may be a sign that affection has evolved into a real feeling.
2. You are not afraid to discuss the future
Where to go on vacation when this covid horror ends? Which pet to get and why it shouldn’t be a tarantula? And of course, what should you name your children? If you’re making plans together, it’s a sign that your partner has become an integral part of your life. On the other hand, if they don’t care for this side of you, you may as well just ditch them.
3. Honesty is the best policy, even when it hurts
When something doesn’t suit you, you find the courage to talk about it and look for solutions to the problem together. It can be painful and unpleasant in the process, but this is normal. Just use logic and common sense to back up your opinion, don’t go all-out with emotions. You have to do these venting sessions to avoid accumulating the bad vibes about your partner, like certain dates they forgot, broken promises, dirty dishes in the sink. These petty things can ruin a relationship very fast.
4. You know how to find compromises
Compromise is a sign of a mature mind and the ability to listen to other people’s opinions. In our current world, it’s extremely hard to find a person like that, but it doesn’t mean you should stop looking. Almost any issue can be resolved so that both you and your partner are in some way satisfied with the result. Trivial dramas are only good in cheap CW shows. In reality, this is a rather grueling undertaking, capable of ruining even the strongest bonds.
5. You acknowledge your partner’s right to make mistakes
This means you also have the right to make some mistakes, just don’t abuse it. Road bumps are inevitable in every relationship, especially in the beginning. But it’s not so much about what you did wrong, as it is about solving the issue. In any fight, bringing up past mistakes is a very bad idea that can lead to unpleasant consequences.
6. Mutual respect is the key
Respect is the base line of any healthy relationship. If your partner knows how to take your feelings and thoughts into account, he or she is a keeper. Especially if they have to sacrifice something they value a lot. You know, love is not a short story about who is right and who is wrong; it’s lore like a 10-volume epic about teamwork, respect, and acceptance.
But don’t take my word for it, just try treating your partner like a human being! You can thank me later.