Every relationship starts fresh and fun, but after a while, both partners have to work on their habits and emotions to build trust. This can get very tedious at times, but there’s more than one way to sprinkle some posi vibes even during the hardest moments.
1. Compliments
Oftentimes, a few words of support will help your partner get over that thing they’ve been dwelling on for days. Kind words will make them feel loved and appreciated. And telling them their butt looks great will certainly cheer them up if they’re in a bad mood. In short, focus on the positives, and don’t worry about the small stuff. It’s important to know that even if you keep using the same compliments, it’ll also work.
2. Let go of your anger
Anger is a relationship killer. It makes you self-centered and prevents you from seeing the good around you. If you’re angry with your partner, give yourself some time to calm down, take a step back, and discuss what’s going on.
3. Speak your mind
You have to take the plunge and share what’s really going on in your hearts and minds. If your partner doesn’t know how you feel, then you must initiate the conversation, just remember the previous step — let go of your anger first. It’s one of the hardest tricks to master, but you will be much happier when speaking the truth.
4. Remember the good old days
If there’s nothing good about your current situation, but you still want to cheer up your partner, all you need to do is go back in time and remember the greener grass. Put on those rose-tinted glasses and journey into the land of Memories.
5. Self-care
Even if you’re madly in love and think you can do anything for your partner, it’s vital to think about your needs too, especially when we’re talking about one’s mental health. Take some time to focus on what you want and need, and you’ll see the results right away. This is a long-term investment, but it’s very much worth the effort.
6. Try to be realistic
When you see a happy couple in movies and on TV and think to yourself, “why can’t we be like them?”, you’re opening Pandora’s box. There are no perfect couples. They simply don’t exist in real life. So every time you nag at your partner about them doing something wrong, remember that every relationship is flawed. Keeping it real with yourself and your partner and managing your expectations will go a long way for your relationship.
7. Tone down the criticism
Spending time with someone can lead to some unexpected consequences, like, you start to notice just how annoying they are. Those little idiosyncrasies can drive you crazy, but it’s important to remember all the things you love about your partner. It’s not unusual to get annoyed by silly quirks, but if they really bother you, you better speak up. Do you think you’re so great? You probably have even more of those little things that are driving your partner crazy. Welcome to an adult relationship. Snarky criticism will only make things worse for both of you, so if you feel like you’re about to go ham on something small, try to focus on the positive side and whatever it is that you adore about your partner.
